Personal Responsibility In Our Children

I’ve been thinking more and more recently about my children being “self-sufficient” & “personally responsible” adults in life. Scary, I know, considering Alyssa is 18 yrs old and I probably should have been thinking about this much earlier than now. But, alas, I haven’t!

 

A series of events have lead to this post, the most recent being yesterday:

While I was working Alyssa (my oldest daughter) text me from school saying that she was hungry. “OK?” I thought. I respond “I’m working”. She then proceeds to whine *yes, I could hear the whine through the text* about how she had been up since 6:00am, forgot her lunch, it was now 4:00pm and she wouldn’t be done with practice until 7:30pm and she was *starving*.

My first thought was that of frustration. I mean seriously?!?! Is she for real? Did she really go ALL DAY without eating anything and now expects to have the energy to practice {colorguard}…. oh AND expects ME to stop working to bring it to her?
{I know the following should have been my first thought, but it wasn’t, so sue me!}
My second thought was concern; after all, she IS a diabetic. Going all day without eating isn’t good for anyone, but it especially isn’t good for a diabetic. The horror of a low blood sugar then comes to mind.
But, I think the biggest thought was “Where is your personal responsibility?” and I responded as such! {I am a serious contender for mother of the year right now} “You should have planned ahead and packed your lunch and some snacks. You are 18, Alyssa! What are you going to do when you are on a college campus next year and you don’t have mom to run something to you?” Her response you ask? “I dunno!”
Agghhhhh!!!!! I HAVE CREATED A LITTLE MONSTER! Now I do have to say, Alyssa is GENERALLY a pretty responsible & mature kid. She is actively involved with school, church, and her community. She maintains good grades, is Captain of the Rifle team for colorguard, coaches cheerleading, works with special needs children, helps me with her siblings, etc., etc. etc. She has been an active participant and day to day giver of her medical care for the past 10 years. But all of the sudden a light bulb went off for me……
So much of her “responsibility” is because MOM keeps her on schedule and gives her reminders. *oh, snap* Is she really going to be a self-sufficient adult? Is she going to “survive” without mom there to keep her on track? Well, duh, I KNOW she will… but could I have prepared her better? I still have 7 months before she leaves for college. It’s crunch time!!
What about you? How have you prepared your children to leave the nest and fly on their own? HELP!

Linked To:
Raising Arrows, Easy Life, Losing My Gut, Turnips 2 Tangerines, Scrumptilicious 4 You, From My Front Porch to Yours, Sweet Haute

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First Ever Blog

I have never had a blog before. Actually, this is really just for me to post my thoughts from time to time, but I dont have time (nor the desire) to keep up with a journal. So this will be it, for all the world to see!

I am tired these days. Life in general has me tired. Kids, husband, work, bills, cooking, cleaning…. it all just has me tired.

Alyssa FINALLY got past basketball season and we are done cheering for this year. THAT is a blessing ya can’t even imagine. All that running around. Shheeessh! So glad it is over! I love watching her cheer. I love being around her friends (they are a great group of kids), but I am tired of not being in bed at a decent time. Her grades dropped BIG TIME during basketball season. Her life as she knew it is currently over and she now has to focus on grades again. I WONT have her failing because of her extra activities!

Jada and Maison are back to “demon children”. Time for a medication adjustment. Yeah, everyone wants to move out of the house again. Its so frustrating. They dont want to listen to anything we tell them to do, they scream and hollar, they kick and fuss and they tear stuff up. Grrrr. Yeah, time for medication adjustments.

On top of that Jada’s evaluation with her therapist didn’t go as well as I thought it would. Apparently now, on top of the speech issues, we now have “language processing issues”. Whatever! I am so tired of “issues”. Just tell me what we have to do to make it better, and that is what we will do. Unfortunately, it isnt that easy. At least with Alyssa’s D, if she just takes her damn insulin, she is fine.

Ryan still hasnt been evaluated for SpEd like he is supposed to have done. That is aggrivating me.

I am just sick and tired of being sick and tired.

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